Contacting an old flame?

MISSY · 02-27-2009, 09:36 PM

Send her a letter and say HI it can't hurt!

Geezer · 02-27-2009, 10:34 PM

Yeah, I've done that many times - find an "old friend" on Facebook or Myspace or Classmates and written to them. One of the girls I had a crush on in High School is now living with her female "life partner" after being married and having two daughters. Another High School gal friend is now living about 20 miles from me and I had NO idea until I wrote to her on Classmates.

I say "write to the girl." You are probably afraid of "being rejected" but... nothing ventured, nothing gains.

laranger · 02-28-2009, 12:26 AM

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Originally Posted by missy

send her a letter and say hi it can't hurt!

missy sighting!!!!!

eastbill · 02-28-2009, 02:01 AM

i contacted an old flame and have become very good friends... she is married now... but we can stillbe good friends. her husband is a good guy.

CK1 · 02-28-2009, 02:07 AM

the way i see it is simple. if you don't try to contact her and talk to her, you will always wonder what could have been. even if you don't get a response, at least you know you tried. and maybe she will want to continue the friendship, maybe it will lead to more, maybe it won't but at least you will not have that nagging voice in the back of you head asking "what if..."

laranger · 02-28-2009, 03:02 AM

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Originally Posted by CK1

the way i see it is simple. if you don't try to contact her and talk to her, you will always wonder what could have been. even if you don't get a response, at least you know you tried. and maybe she will want to continue the friendship, maybe it will lead to more, maybe it won't but at least you will not have that nagging voice in the back of you head asking "what if..."

Winner!!!!

mart · 02-28-2009, 02:25 PM

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Originally Posted by CK1

the way i see it is simple. if you don't try to contact her and talk to her, you will always wonder what could have been. even if you don't get a response, at least you know you tried. and maybe she will want to continue the friendship, maybe it will lead to more, maybe it won't but at least you will not have that nagging voice in the back of you head asking "what if..."

If only it was that easy. I parted from my partner quite a few years back due to a bad accident i had at work. Which left one side of my face deformed we parted on reasonably good terms it wasn't easy for her nor me. I kept her phone number and for the last year or so i've wanted to give her a call. But i just can't do it. I've actually dialed the number just to hear her voice then hung up. I can't understand why i can't talk her even just to say hello. I'd like her to come back but it's not knowing how she feels now.

laranger · 02-28-2009, 05:43 PM

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Originally Posted by mart

If only it was that easy. I parted from my partner quite a few years back due to a bad accident i had at work. Which left one side of my face deformed we parted on reasonably good terms it wasn't easy for her nor me. I kept her phone number and for the last year or so i've wanted to give her a call. But i just can't do it. I've actually dialed the number just to hear her voice then hung up. I can't understand why i can't talk her even just to say hello. I'd like her to come back but it's not knowing how she feels now.

Perhaps the fear of being rejected again??

mart · 03-01-2009, 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by laranger

Perhaps the fear of being rejected again??

I don't think i was rejected the first time Laranger, but i know what you mean. We did part as friends and now i'm thinking as she hasn't phoned me over the years. So i guess that may be the answer as she's moved on. I just feel a little sad without her sometimes.

MISSY · 02-28-2009, 09:01 PM

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Originally Posted by laranger

missy sighting!!!!!

Don't get all excited!!!!!!!!!!

02-27-2009, 09:36 PM	#1
MISSY Danielle's Imaginary Girlfriend Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: VA. Posts: 598	Send her a letter and say HI it can't hurt!

02-27-2009, 10:34 PM	#2
Geezer Danielle's Imaginary Boyfriend Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: San Jose, CA Posts: 895	Yeah, I've done that many times - find an "old friend" on Facebook or Myspace or Classmates and written to them. One of the girls I had a crush on in High School is now living with her female "life partner" after being married and having two daughters. Another High School gal friend is now living about 20 miles from me and I had NO idea until I wrote to her on Classmates. I say "write to the girl." You are probably afraid of "being rejected" but... nothing ventured, nothing gains.

02-28-2009, 02:01 AM	#4
eastbill Danielle's Biggest Fan Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: New Jersey Posts: 283	i contacted an old flame and have become very good friends... she is married now... but we can stillbe good friends. her husband is a good guy.

02-28-2009, 02:07 AM	#5
CK1 Danielle's Biggest Fan Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Near Orlando, Fl Posts: 468	the way i see it is simple. if you don't try to contact her and talk to her, you will always wonder what could have been. even if you don't get a response, at least you know you tried. and maybe she will want to continue the friendship, maybe it will lead to more, maybe it won't but at least you will not have that nagging voice in the back of you head asking "what if..."